GROOMING ADOLESCENCE
It is obvious that being a teenager is very different these days
than it was even five or 10 years ago. The environment is difficult
to grow up in than it ever has been in the past. Adolescents need
insights into healthy ways to develop a code of ethics about work,
money, family, and friendships. Parents and elders have to teach children
about values, and how to think critically about what values would
be important as they moved into adulthood.
Teens are in school half of the day, then in tuition class, TV and
some sports or activities. They have time to eat dinner, study, watch
some TV, and go to bed. Parents may not have quality time with their
children, teaching them about values, work, or how to make good choices.
Parents are busy to earn and provide facilities for comfort of their
children. It is the fault of our society and lifestyle, in which money
and status have become the most important. Parents don't have time
to imbibe good rituals in their children and this is the result of
the growing frustration, anguish, tobacco, drugs, theft, violence
and other vices in teenagers.
Every parent should try to combat the disrespect and revolting attitude
amongst teenagers by allowing natural consequences to happen wherever
possible. If a teen does something wrong in spite of your warning
then you should let him go through the consequences of his actions
instead of shielding him. By this way they will learn from the mistakes.
Even if we give them positive choices, they may sometimes opt to do
something dangerous instead. We must be prepared to deal with this
eventuality by allowing them to suffer the consequences of their actions.
It is a natural part of growing up. We need to be able to support
them and help them learn from the decisions that they do make. What
is important is that every teenager has to pass through this phase.
TEEN & PARENTS RELATIONSHIP
Adolescence is a time when you will find it difficult to cope up
with teenagers. They are in such a stage when they are vulnerable
and weak and this is a time when you have to take special care and
interest in your teens so as to help them to go ahead in life with
confidence and courage. If you want a great relationship, be involved!
Communicate on a daily basis. Actively show concern for your teen.
Be a parent your teen and her friends want to be around. Once a week,
take your teen out alone.
Teen years for girls today are a period of real danger since this
age makes them vulnerable to risky behavior, and any stupid or bad
choice can have devastating lifelong consequences. Find out how you
can help your teenage girls survive the risky years by becoming their
or her mentor.
Getting a college education requires a lot of time, effort, and careful
planning by parents and students, but will it really provide knowledge
and skills students will use for the rest of their lives? Find out
what your teen enjoys doing, which you can do as a family. This is
important to build the confidence in them so that they can open up
before you and consider you as the best friend. You must have wondered
why your teenager looks sad, lonely, and confused although he/she
may appear tough, cheerful, and confident. Learn the truth behind
this behavior.
By Adolescence
Educator