Breast obsession due to early stoppage of Breastfeeding away from public view.

So what is it about the breasts so obsessed with them as sexual objects? It seems to be linked to the fact breasts are not seen as baby feeders. We may about to forget the natural function of the breasts. The biological function of women’s breasts was for feeding children. Women’s breasts are like a cow’s udder. If we can see breasts as the wonderful means God created to feed and comfort babies, then women don't have to worry about the size and shape of their breasts anymore. Breast of all sizes and shapes can produce milk. The idea that breasts are only sexual organs for men is disgusting. We should not overshadow their primary biological function for feeding children. Women and children are harmed by beliefs about breasts, both directly and indirectly, both physically and emotionally.

Bbreastfeeding rates have improved, but most women don't breastfeed very much or very long or in public. A breast is hardly seen by adolescents and young adults as milk feeding organs for newly born babies. Baby is seen as fed from the bottle, so it doesn't get to know Mom's breast as a food source. Also if Mom never undresses or uncovers her bosom in front of her child, the child never gets to see breasts. Parents, society, TV, and media show breasts to be shameful, sexual, forbidden, supposed to be big and upright, and the child can easily end up believing that way too.

But what if the baby is breastfed in public and in family living rooms? After all, most women do breastfeed their babies at least in the hospital. Baby is breast fed in the beginning only. Mom maybe has problems with milk supply, she starts a supplement bottle, which reduces her milk supply, and soon the baby is weaned say at three months. Or maybe Mom goes to work at six weeks and weans the baby.

But just because Mom quits nursing doesn't mean that the baby wants to. The attachment and love for Mommy's breast doesn't just go away like that. Baby loses its best source of food, as well as its source of comfort and security! Little baby is probably feeling alone. Of course, the baby can't talk, so Mommy can go on with the weaning process just as she wants it. This kind of early and forced weaning can cause the baby a emotional/psychological trauma. Deep inside it retains this feeling of wanting the breast. The baby still likes Mommy's breasts. It is still interested in Mommy's bosom and wants to touch it, cuddle the breast, feel close, get yummy milk. You can see this when weaned toddlers and babies are still interested in breasts and want to touch them. But many times the mother feels uneasy about it and maybe thinks it is indecent and perverted behavior. The father may feel the same way and fear that his child (and especially his son) is going to grow up to be some kind of pervert, but that is not true! Little children don't think sexual things!

So the mother tries to get her child to stop this nipple twiddling and breast cuddling. Perhaps the child is taught that touching naked breasts is bad, it is a "NO-NO". Now, if the mother never lets her children see bare breasts, it is no wonder that the child develops a curiosity towards breasts. The child starts thinking and wondering what they look like. While the child is growing up, everything around her touts that breasts are a forbidden taboo. And we all know that taboos just encourage curiosity. Breasts are a no-no, thereby exciting. What is forbidden and exciting, and presented as sexual in the media, then starts arousing sexual feelings especially with boys since girls at least get to see their own breasts and often times Mom's too.

So what started as innocent curiosity and love towards Mommy's breasts can be turned into sexual obsession in boys, whereas young girls start worrying about breast size, and consider having buying push-up bras and breast implants to make their own breasts look more "attractive". It all starts when you take the breast away from the child and then make seeing breasts a forbidden no-no for the rest of the child's growing period. End result is a distorted view of female breasts.

The less women breastfeed, the less people get to see the real purpose of breasts. At the same time media everywhere touts the view of female breasts as sexual. That in turn makes it harder for women to breastfeed, since many of the reasons for not breastfeeding are linked to the idea that woman's breasts are sexual organs. So the less women breastfeed, the harder it becomes for women to breastfeed. We have a cycle that self-promotes the view that the main purpose of female breasts is for something else than feeding babies!

First, let children be breastfed.
Then, let older children and teenagers may see breastfeeding moms and their babies.
Let them learn about breasts and breastfeeding. Let them see breasts used for their purpose.
Don't make it a taboo, a forbidden no-no.

By Adolescence Educator